Set your boundaries now, if possible.

I have taught SO many classes where I get feedback after our first session about what a game changer this advice was for them. So many of us are so focused on our checklists just getting through pregnancy, that it doesn’t occur to us to decide ahead of time what we want for our postpartum boundaries and expectations. 

🙅🏻‍♀️ don’t get me wrong!! We love all the postpartum support, we want our babies to meet their family, and we know how important this time is to grandparents, aunts, uncles… but the postpartum period is a tender one, designed for rest, recovery and bonding for the baby and parent(s). If you’ve got a family member that is going to be unbelievably helpful and supportive- GREAT! Bring them in, let them stay with you, and help you transition. If you’ve got a big family or more nuanced dynamics where you’re not comfortable with an open door policy (most of us!) then come up with some ground rules now. 

Decide on COVID policies, visiting hours, and most importantly: a list of things that people can do to help! Friends and family often say “let me know what I can do!!” And how great would it be if you had an answer?! 🧑‍🍼 yes, you can ✔️ walk the dog ✔️ do a load of dishes ✔️ pick up my prescription. 

This time is too precious to not spend some time preparing. If you’re unsure of where to start, try asking your doula to get some ideas of common boundaries, to-do items or insight on visitors and COVID. We’re here to help you prepare, each step of the way. ♥️